How to Split a Toaster

A Divorce Podcast about Saving Your Relationships

Seth Nelson is a Tampa-based family lawyer known for devising creative solutions to difficult problems. In How to Split a Toaster, Nelson and co-host Pete Wright take on the challenge of divorce with a central objective: saving your most important relationships with your family, your former spouse, and yourself.

From an early age, he has always wanted to help people. After law school he found that he could do the greatest good by helping people through one of the most difficult times of their lives.  Being a divorcee himself, as well as a father, he understands what you’re going through.

“I have been through a divorce and have a young child. As difficult as the divorce process can be, especially when there are kids involved, things will get better.”

In his practice, Seth focuses on Florida divorce law, Florida family law, and Florida family law mediation. On the Toaster, however, he offers a platform for exploring the extraordinarily wide range of topics that impact you through your divorce, all with an eye on saving your most important relationships.

Season 9

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Season 8 Pete Wright Season 8 Pete Wright

Divorcing a Narcissist with Guest Victoria McCooey

Narcissist Divorce Coach Victoria McCooey joins Seth and Pete to talk about the challenges that come when trying to get out of a marriage to a narcissist. It’s not easy! We walk through Victoria’s three stages in communicating with your narcissist soon-to-be ex that can help you more easily navigate this difficult situation through each of its phases.

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Learning to Take the High Road with Andy Heller

Andy Heller joins Seth and Pete to talk about his new book “Take the High Road: Divorce with Compassion for Yourself and Your Family,” why it’s such a challenge to take the high road when it comes to your ex, and why it’s important to learn how to do so.

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Is Life Happening TO You or Is Life Happening FOR You? A Conversation with Resilience Coach Michelle Dickinson

Resilience Coach Michelle Dickinson joins Seth and Pete to talk about the challenges those going through divorce (or who have already done so) and how learning to be more resilient can help. How do you be more resilient? It’s being intentional. Taking ownership and avoiding falling into your day. We talk through many tools that can help.

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Demystifying Legal Research and the Appeals Process with NLG Family Law Associate Attorney Tia Rowe

NLG Family Law associate attorney Tia Rowe joins Pete to talk about two important topics to help those going through a divorce. First, they discuss the importance of legal research, what you should expect from the research effort, and more. Second is the state appeals process. When should it be something you may want to consider?

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Changes in Florida’s Alimony Law: A Special Episode

There’s a new law in Florida that affects alimony as of July 1, 2023. What does it mean for those living in Florida? What if you went through your divorce before that date? Who benefits? Seth walks Pete through this new law and what it means for those dealing with divorce in Florida.

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Dealing with a Problematic Soon-to-Be Ex: A Conversation with NLG Family Law Attorney Sterling Lovelady

Sterling Lovelady joins Pete to talk about dealing with a problematic ex. Whether it’s a challenge about the decision to leave your alcoholic spouse in their time of need, concerns about legal battles you’re tied into with your spouse, or a concern about a spouse who doesn’t want custody of the kids at all, today’s conversation gives us some important topics to tackle. Plus, a listener question!

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Rebroadcast • A Judge’s Perspective on Divorce Court: Chatting with Judge Wesley Tibbals

May it please the court! In this week’s classic rebroadcast, we’ve got a special guest today who knows a thing or two about the workings of divorce court, and that’s because he’s a judge! That’s right, we figured it was about time that we had an actual judge on to make sure we’re not just making stuff up. Judge Wesley Tibbals talks with Pete and Seth today about life behind the bench in divorce court.

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Season Seven Mailbag! Questions From Our Listeners

We’re closing out our seventh season with more listener questions. From relationships with your ex’s kids from a previous marriage and threats from your ex, to PTSD in the courtroom and bigamy, we cover a wide range of topics. Plus, we look at exceptional/unique/unusual divorces and what that means.

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Parent Coordination 101

If you have minor kids in your divorce, you might find yourself working in some capacity with a parent coordinator. Today, we’re going back to basics: what does the parent coordinator do? What are their responsibilities? How do they relate to the court and the legal process? Today, we're going back to school on parent coordination.

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Surviving the Vocational Evaluation

Do you love performance reviews? Do you live for that feeling you get when you know someone else is watching you and determining your value at work based on things that are largely out of your control? Then you’re going to love today’s topic: Vocational Evaluation.

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Winning Your Divorce! with exExperts Jessica Klingbaum and T.H. Irwin

What does ‘winning your divorce’ mean? In today’s episode, exExperts Jessica Klingbaum and T.H. Irwin join Seth and Pete to talk about their own divorce journeys and how that brought them to become the exExperts they are today. The conversation ranges from the power of social support to trying to break through the shame around divorce, from better understanding the divorce process to learning to be present. Plus, they tell us about their upcoming virtual summit called WIN YOUR DIVORCE. Tune in!

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HSPs: Navigating Divorce When You’re a Highly Sensitive Person with Chris Lyon

Nearly 30% of us are highly sensitive people – or HSPs – and if you count yourself in that group, it makes divorce a materially different experience. In this episode, Chris Lyon, a relationship author and facilitator, talks with Seth and Pete about the challenge of navigating the big emotions that come with divorce, why being defensive is your weakest position, and why empathy is the one thing you need to have.

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