How to Split a Toaster
A Divorce Podcast about Saving Your Relationships
Seth Nelson is a Tampa-based family lawyer known for devising creative solutions to difficult problems. In How to Split a Toaster, Nelson and co-host Pete Wright take on the challenge of divorce with a central objective: saving your most important relationships with your family, your former spouse, and yourself.
From an early age, he has always wanted to help people. After law school he found that he could do the greatest good by helping people through one of the most difficult times of their lives. Being a divorcee himself, as well as a father, he understands what you’re going through.
“I have been through a divorce and have a young child. As difficult as the divorce process can be, especially when there are kids involved, things will get better.”
In his practice, Seth focuses on Florida divorce law, Florida family law, and Florida family law mediation. On the Toaster, however, he offers a platform for exploring the extraordinarily wide range of topics that impact you through your divorce, all with an eye on saving your most important relationships.
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Parental Alienation and the Law: The Case of Ty and Brynlee Larson
Parental alienation is a controversial topic, and one currently in the news in the case of two kids in Utah who have barricaded themselves in their room to avoid a court ruling telling them they have to spend time with their father, who they say abused them. So how does this all play out in the courts? Is parental alienation a real thing? And how do lawyers navigate it when it’s brought into a case? A listener question spurred us on to have this full-episode discussion. Tune in!
Untangling the Mess of Divorce Financials with Forensic Accountant Tracy Coenen
We dig into the world of forensic accounting with Tracy Coenen. Tracy’s a forensic accountant and is behind The Divorce Money Guide, a tool that helps you understand your money and uncover where money might be hiding your divorce. She talks with us about what you can do to untangle the mess of marriage financials and figure out if you’re the victim of financial abuse. Plus, we have a listener question!
When Co-Parenting Just Doesn’t Work: The Solution? Parallel Parenting
Seth and Pete talk about the challenges of parenting when divorced parents just can’t make things work. It’s called Parallel Parenting. Is it okay for the kids? How does it work? And how do parents handle the challenges that come with it?
Listener Question! Common Misconceptions About Divorce
Our listener question last week spurred us on to record this special episode about common misconceptions in the divorce process. Sterling Lovelady, an attorney with Seth at NLG, joins him and Pete to set you straight.
Being Black in the World of Divorce with Mike Easterling
Mike Easterling, co-host of the Just Being Brothers podcast, joins Seth and Pete to talk about the black perspective on divorce, as well as gray divorce. How does being black change the divorce equation? What does church have to do with it? Education? It’s a wide-ranging conversation that comes with a great viewpoint. Plus, we have some listener questions!
Finding Hope When You Feel Like an Impostor: Combating Impostor Syndrome with Lauren Abrams
Lauren Abrams, attorney and podcaster behind the 52 Weeks of Hope podcast, joins Seth and Pete to talk about the challenges of impostor syndrome and how that can affect you during your divorce.
Marriage Breakdown During the Menopausal Transition with Alison Bladh
Every woman goes through menopause in their lives, but how can it affect your relationships? How can you combat the negative symptoms that come with it? And what can you do as a partner to be more aware of what she’s going through? Alison Bladh, who specializes in menopausal women’s health, joins Seth and Pete to discuss this important topic.
How Does Rover Handle Visitation? A Conversation with Pet Custody Mediator Karis Nafte
Listener favorite Karis Nafte, pet custody mediator and certified dog behavior consultant from South Africa, returns to talk with Seth and Pete about the challenges of visitation in the world of pets. Can it work? Are certain breeds better at adapting than others? And what’s really the bottom line when it comes to the welfare of your dog? Plus, we have a listener question!
Slaying the DRAGON: Cutting Through Divorce Conflict with Diane Dierks and Rick Voyles
Diane Dierks and Rick Voyles from the Co-Parenting Dilemmas podcast join Seth and Pete today to teach us how parents can reframe conflict. Diane and Rick talk about their acronym DRAGON and how divorced parents struggling with conflict can use it to cut back those challenges.
Dissolving Your WAFFLES with Dr. Katie Nall
Dr. Katie Nall joins Seth and Pete to talk about a technique you can use to get rid of your WAFFLES – worry, anxiety, fear, frustration, lethargy, exhaustion, and stress. It’s called EFT, or Emotional Freedom Technique. Some know it as tapping. Some people might be skeptical, but if it works, it’s worth a try, right? We learn a bit about it and even give it a try in this episode.
The 90-Day Relationship Cleanse with Deborah Driggs
Deborah Driggs is back with Pete and Seth this week to discuss her 90-day relationship cleanse! Looking to build new, healthy habits after a rough separation? Start here!
Close “The Gap”: Dr. Janet Williams brings answers to why you don’t like sex anymore
If your inability to maintain your intimate relationship with your partner is one of the bumps on your road to divorce, then you need to keep listening... because today we’re taking on one of the big ones: your sex life with author and specialist Dr. Janet Williams.
Finding Forgiveness After Your Divorce with Elizabeth Ann Atkins
Elizabeth Ann Atkins is back to talk about the challenging journey toward forgiveness — for your self and your former spouse — after your divorce.
Co-Parenting in the Movies: A Special Holiday Crossover Event with The Next Reel Film Podcast
Happy holidays! Once again, Andy Nelson – our producer and co-host of The Next Reel Film Podcast – joins us for a conversation about movies. This time, we’re talking about movies featuring co-parenting and we’ve each got our lists ready!
Co-Parenting During the Holidays
‘Tis the season... for co-parenting conflicts...? Seth and Pete talk about co-parenting during the holidays, why it’s so challenging, and ways you can avoid conflict. Travel days. Emergency motions. Gifts. Splitting holidays. They cover the gamut. Tune in!
Rebroadcast • How Not to Be an A-Hole In Your Marriage with Brian Ronalds
In this Toaster rebroadcast from season 2, author Brian Ronalds joins us to talk about his series of books designed to guide you through your marriage assuming that you don’t actually want it to end: "How Not to be an A-Hole Husband and Lose Your Wife," and (among others) it’s partner, "How Not to be an A-hole Wife and Lose your Husband."
Rebroadcast • Holding Your Head High Through Divorce with Elizabeth Ann Atkins
In this rebroadcast episode, author Elizabeth Ann Atkins helps us keep the focus on a successful divorce outcome while everything else in the divorce process gets ugly!
Rebroadcast • But What About the Dog?: Karis Nafte & Pet Custody Issues
Love hurts. And when you’re on the precipice of divorce, specific circumstances of your relationship don’t matter as much as the grief and loss you feel as you prepare to walk away from your relationship. This week on the show, we’re talking about the push and pull that comes when you realize you’ve reached the end, but you’re not sure how to start the next chapter.
Rebroadcast • Overcoming Divorce and Breaking Through the Negative with Deborah Driggs
Deborah Driggs joins Pete and Seth in this episode to discuss her divorce, the challenges she’s gone through since, and how she’s taken what she learned to start helping others break through the negative and connect with their inner self before it’s too late.
Shedding the Light on Gaslighting with Dr. Deborah Vinall
Dr. Deborah Vinall, author of Gaslighting: A Step-by-Step Recovery Guide, joins Seth and Pete to guide those facing a gaslighting spouse toward awareness and healing, as well as what to be aware of when it comes to them gaslighting the kids.